I remember that problem. I got around it by changing the Menu color slightly.
In XP, I would right-click in an empty area of the monitor Desktop and choose Properties. Then go to the Appearance page and click on the Advanced button. I believe it was Menu I chose from the Item list and changed its color a bit darker. Then the highlighted icons stood out better.
In Vista and probably Windows 7, go to Control Panel â€” Personalization. Choose "Window Color and Appearance". In the "Appearance Settings" dialog, click on "Advanced". Then it's the same as above.
Hope this works for you.
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